Sunday, October 14, 2012
A True Friendship

Question: My friends were very close to me, but they changed. I had no idea what a true friendship is about.

Answer:

            What’s worth praising, is that you’d immediately have some time to self-reflect upon such issue. I believe you must be a kind and caring person!

            Therefore, I hope that you would carry on with your confidence and strive vigorously on your own path. If you discover a little more of yourself that you need to change, please do so. Otherwise, please continue on your journey as you are.

            It is usual to have your physical and psychological state to have a rapid growth at your age. In other words, your mindset, your perception changes as well.

            It is common to see your close friends making friends with different kind of people. After all, this is a stage of youth where your emotion changes drastically. At times, you would get mad or misled, and you might even start to dislike your friends under the influence of some rumour.

            Under such drastic growth, it might not always be your fault nor your friend’s when something is going on. I think that this is the very proof of you becoming an adult.
           
            Sometimes, people do change. You’re changing each year, so do your friends and your surroundings. Therefore, it is usual for people to change. Could you recall yourself being friends with the same group of people when you were in kindergarten, primary school, or even high school?

            I bet you’d come across to situations like this even more in the future! You’d feel bad of losing friends, but that’s what make friendship valuable.

            When you’re making friends with different kind of people at your age, you’re actually helping each other to grow as you learn from one another. Being with different people of various characters, you could learn to be a better person yourself. But of course it would be marvelous if you’re able to maintain a friendship with certain people for over ten years. However at the perception of character building, you might just be short of certain elements.

            Constantly, we lose some friends and then, making new ones. That’s the way to discover the most truthful friendship. Therefore, the sorrow you feel for now, would then become a valuable experience of yours. Only through this way, could you understand and find your way to a truthful friendship. If we never experienced lost, we might never know what a true friendship is about. You’re right at the stage where you experience what a true friendship really is.

            Nevertheless, if you adhere yourself to your close friends at all times, they might just get annoyed. Everyone needs time and space for themselves, hence, we must learn to respect each other. To respect our friend as a person with a distinctive personality, this is the way we construct a strong friendship.

            A true friendship is not merely two person being together. True friendship is about expressing your own personality to communicate and grow together. In other words, we should be achieving more when we’re with our friends. Having an equation like 1+1=3, or even 4.

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