Sunday, July 15, 2012
Be strong and understanding

Question: My parents always quarrel, I lost the sense of security.

Answer:

Everyone wishes to return home, seeing their family members in harmony. If the first thing they see as they open the door of the house is a scene of argument, it could really being negativity. Likewise, parents are hoping their children to be good to each other as well. However it seems impossible for the children not to quarrel over tiny little matters.

Firstly, we must understand that our parents are human too and they do have emotions. At times, they might be a little down or upset. Not to mention all the work, financial and relationship problems they go through to raise us. If no one was there to support and understand them, they might someday burst like a bomb!

Therefore, when we see our parents arguing, never think too negatively or blame yourself for it. What you should do is to change your perception to look at such situation. You will find out that you somehow learned something from this and at times, you might even be able to be the one to harmonize them.

Here are some suggestions:

1, use the power of your smile
Our parents are constantly working very hard to support our lives. As one of the member in the family, we must think of ways to cheer the family to make it warm as well. To me, the easiest way is to become a grateful child. We must remember to always smile brightly to our parents. When they know that we have a heart of gratitude, their fatigue will magically be calmed as well.

2, have an understanding heart
For example: When you see your friends quarrelled, you’d go over and console them, giving them support by listening to them. Your friends will recover very soon with your support and understanding. Hence, you could also use the same way in helping the adults in your family. You may not be able to solve their major issues, but at least you are there to give them support. Everyone needs to be cared and supported! It may not be pleasing to see your parents fight, but you could still start caring and understanding them. I believe your care and love is able to cool down their flaming emotion.

3, train yourself to become a stronger person
Everyone wishes to live in a peaceful life forever, but in reality, problems will emerge from contradiction. Be it at school, home, in the society, or even deep down in our emotion, there is a war between good and evil. For example: After a long day at school, all you wanted now is to get home and play some video games. But there could be a voice in your head, telling you to get to bed.
Nothing in the universe will stay still and unchanged. Life is always receiving some sort of training. Even if you face situations as such in your house, all you have to do is to ask yourself to become a courageous person that’ll never be influenced by your environment. This way, your parents will know that you’ve slowly grown to be an understanding child. Till then, they might just stop quarrelling in front of you.

4, vow to be the runner of peace
There are many other families in the world who live in poverty and illness, and in some cases, a broken family. All of these are bringing pain to the family members, especially the children. I hope that as you make a move to realize the above suggestions, you will set a target for yourself to work for the ideology of world peace like Mr. Ikeda. Through such noble aim, you will train yourself in becoming a great capable person. You will never be a helpless child anymore, but the great runner of peace!

Let’s strive harder together for happiness! Be strong!

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Rainbow.

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