Sunday, May 13, 2012
True Friendship

Question: My friends are sometimes being warm to me but sometimes they could act very cold too. What does a true friendship really mean?

Answer:

            Mr. Ikeda once said that a youth’s heart could be as sensitive as a thermometer. Sometimes we’d feel that the world is great place but sometimes we don’t. This is one of the characteristics of youth and we shouldn’t be bothered by it. What’s important is the spirit of never giving up no matter how difficult life may be. Continuously marching forward and our hardship will soon be the past.

            When our friends are acting strangely at times, the best way to understand the situation is through dialogue. Have courage to speak with your friends and try to look for the reason. If we’re not the reason for their strange behaviour, then it shouldn’t be a problem. This is because our hearts change from time to time, it is inevitable.

           It is fate that brings people together from strangers to friends. It happens everywhere around us, at schools, or in the society. However, as the environment changes, some of these relationships may change too. To be precise, there are many kinds of friendship too. Some friendship last just a year, some about five years, and some could even last for a lifetime. Sometimes, people do change. Hence, we do not treat each and every friendship the way as if it is a must for it to last for a lifetime.

            It is not just the physical growth and knowledge that made us a proper person. It is a must for us to train ourselves in life to construct a character and personality that contributes to a great friendship. This is because we need to make friends with people from all kind of backgrounds. This not only widen up our perception, but could train our personality as we learn the good points from others and obtaining trust and respect from them.

            Friendship is the strongest and most valuable thing in life. A life without friends is pity and lonely. If we could make friends with people that have the same faith, aim, and people then encourages one another, it’ll be very great. Mr. Ikeda would describe friendship with the words of Schiler (1759-1805) saying that “Friendship could double the joy and lessen the sorrow”.

            But of course, there are good and bad friends too. We tend to become people like our friends in time as we’re affecting one another. Here comes the importance of friendship. This is because an influence of a friend could be greater than that of our parents. When we make friends with people who have a great determination, we tend to never give up that easily too when it comes to our own challenges.

            A true friendship isn’t about sticking to each other day and night, spending time together. It isn’t about getting advantages from one another. However, it is about being able to encourage each other even though you may have different aims; it is about the sharing of the pain when you know that they’re suffering. When we’re in trouble, our friends will be bothered as well. Only such a friendship could last long.

            In a nutshell, friendship is determined by you yourself. It is determined by your attitude. To those who do not think that you’ve found a “true friendship”, I hope that you could widen up your life to train yourself, to let yourself grow. Who knows, you might just find someone on your journey unexpectedly. This is because when we’re widening up our hearts, only then we’ll be able to cultivate a noble friendship.


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