Sunday, April 22, 2012
Having Disagreement

Question: I frequently have a different opinion than my friends’. I hoped to communicate well with them but I could never find a better way to do so.

Answer:

It’s very important to voice out our opinion especially when we’re undergoing a vast growth period. In contrary, it is quite sad if we fail to put our thoughts to words. Rather than being someone that follows the public, I think you’ve got your own points and it’s very independent.

However, human beings are social animals and we could never avoid such fact as we’re living in the society. Hence, when we voice out opinions, we must learn to listen as well. This is what we called democracy.

A great person’s opinion might not always be accurate or correct. When there is a different feedback given, we’d start to learn to open up our perception and see things on a wider view. From here, we could find a proper direction and sometimes, we may also realize that some of our previous perceptions have been incorrect or inaccurate.

When there is a disagreement, we must first calm down and never be driven away by our emotion. As we do so, we must also listen carefully to other people’s opinion. Sometimes, we can try to put ourselves in theirs shoes to care, respect, and understand them. It is not necessary that we agree with everyone, but we must at least have an open heart that listen to their voice. In the same time, our friends could possibly understand us more and start to see things like we do. This will lead us to a positive communication then.

Regardless of the person, any opinion has a value of its own. A perfect conclusion comes after a harmonic balance from all the different voices. Hence, we must always discuss and share our point of view.

When we realized that our perception has been improper, we must correct it. Hence, when we found that someone’s opinion was a better one, we must be able to accept it and give them a positive response.

At times, we may come across to people who’d never give up on their stand. But such an attitude would not bring us any good as it shows how naïve and ignorant we are.

To a baby, it is forgivable to be childish. But for a teen, it is intolerable. When you think you are very independent to think that way, you were actually turning yourself into a self-centered person.

Then what is communication? In a nutshell, it is the attitude to step back when there’s a need to do so. Such person with great tolerance is a person with true independence. It may seem weak but it’s actually not. It shows how big your heart is.

No matter if your opinion is always correct, if you stand on your ground all the time, people will find it hard to communicate with you. Try imagining someone that always stand on his ground and someone who’s always opened to receive other feedbacks. Who would be your choice to talk to when you’re in need?

At your age, you’ll learn from mistakes and failures. Sometimes when disagreement happens, it’ll turn into an argument when we push it too hard. But if you’re giving in too much, you may lose yourself either. Anyhow, this is all part of a learning process. Never be fear to voice out and march forward courageously!


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Wee Yean.

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Written at 11:35 PM by Paper Pilot.