Sunday, September 12, 2010
Being too closed isn't a good thing?
Question:
Sometimes, when we're being too friendly or too closed to the juniors, they tend to not listen to us. What should we do?
Answer:
Having a closed relationship with the juniors is a good thing. We should be happy for it. If they do not listen to us, then we'd have to educate them the way to respect certain function or event at that place. There are times we have fun, and there are times we must behave well. If they never listen, we must not give up, but to continuously explain and educate them until they understand the importance of it. There's a WD who successfully educated her child (who's usually the one to bring up the fun atmosphere) to be well behaved during the meeting.
Shared by,
Mok Siew Kin.
KL R1H3C1.
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Additional sharing from Primitive:
There are 2 reasons for these problems to exist because of the close relationship:
1. Family. I've seen an elder brother being the JD PIC and his younger brother as a junior. His younger brother has already been the "king" in the house, in the end, he never listen to his brother during the meeting. The PICs thought that it'd be convenient for the elder brother to take care of his younger brother, and so, they assigned him to do so. Actually, this is inappropriate. I suggest that the PICs assigned some other PIC to take care of his younger brother. In addition, this helps a lot for the home-visit and dialogue session. After all, isn't it quite hard for the brothers to have a formal dialogue sharing in the house?
2. Knowing the junior for quite some time could contribute to this problem too. As most of us always did, was to befriend with the juniors, and have fun with them so that we could be their good friends. But achieving a good relationship, isn't just depending on having fun with the juniors. To gain trust from the children, we must equip ourselves with "wisdom" and "courage". "Wisdom" is to get use of the things that are happening around the children to enlighten them and encourage them. Whereas "courage" is to believe in the potential in every single one of them. This may take time, but in the long run, we could all get enlightened and encouraged. As for games and activity, it might not be long lasting.
The above two are the best explanation and should be practiced during the dialogue session. We could only get to their heart through a one on one dialogue.
Sometimes, when we're being too friendly or too closed to the juniors, they tend to not listen to us. What should we do?
Answer:
Having a closed relationship with the juniors is a good thing. We should be happy for it. If they do not listen to us, then we'd have to educate them the way to respect certain function or event at that place. There are times we have fun, and there are times we must behave well. If they never listen, we must not give up, but to continuously explain and educate them until they understand the importance of it. There's a WD who successfully educated her child (who's usually the one to bring up the fun atmosphere) to be well behaved during the meeting.
Shared by,
Mok Siew Kin.
KL R1H3C1.
____________________________________________________________
Additional sharing from Primitive:
There are 2 reasons for these problems to exist because of the close relationship:
1. Family. I've seen an elder brother being the JD PIC and his younger brother as a junior. His younger brother has already been the "king" in the house, in the end, he never listen to his brother during the meeting. The PICs thought that it'd be convenient for the elder brother to take care of his younger brother, and so, they assigned him to do so. Actually, this is inappropriate. I suggest that the PICs assigned some other PIC to take care of his younger brother. In addition, this helps a lot for the home-visit and dialogue session. After all, isn't it quite hard for the brothers to have a formal dialogue sharing in the house?
2. Knowing the junior for quite some time could contribute to this problem too. As most of us always did, was to befriend with the juniors, and have fun with them so that we could be their good friends. But achieving a good relationship, isn't just depending on having fun with the juniors. To gain trust from the children, we must equip ourselves with "wisdom" and "courage". "Wisdom" is to get use of the things that are happening around the children to enlighten them and encourage them. Whereas "courage" is to believe in the potential in every single one of them. This may take time, but in the long run, we could all get enlightened and encouraged. As for games and activity, it might not be long lasting.
The above two are the best explanation and should be practiced during the dialogue session. We could only get to their heart through a one on one dialogue.
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